I’m well into my third trimester and feeling it. The belly is big enough to bump things and my maternity jeans don’t fit. I’m also tired, but that is due in part to my low iron. The baby moves a lot and does cute things like get hiccups that you can feel if you put your hand on my belly. I’m getting excited about meeting him!
I have also begun to feel a sense of urgency, maybe that’s what the whole nesting things is about. Everything needs to get done as soon as possible! Everything includes all of our projects, getting the essentials for the baby, decisions made about Summertime visitation with Nora and Noah. Even though I know that we still have over two months until this baby comes I also know that I’m tired. If I’m this tired and feel this huge and awkward now, then it’s only gonna get worse. The most pressing thing, for me, is our bedroom. (I posted here about our bedroom makeover.) Perhaps it is because I am not doing a nursery with this little one or because I know a lot of time is spent in the bedroom at first or because the list includes painting and staining, but I really want it completed before the baby gets here.
With that in mind I set about a few projects this past weekend. We were given a dresser from a friend moving out of state that is perfect for the girl’s room. It is much larger than the one they have now and prettier too. I painted it purple! On Saturday Jason and I started to work on the wall in our bedroom. We were playing around with stenciling it instead of planking it, but at one point I just said stop. It’s a lot of work for something I knew would be temporary. On Sunday I took the plunge and got the planks and began staining them. I normally push through projects. I get focused and determined (unless it is super creative and then I come back to it a time or two) and finish it no matter what. I could not finish the planks. I really wanted to, but my body wouldn’t let me and I’m trying to listen to it more and be mindful of my limitations. I’ve been reading Husband-Coached Childbirth by Robert Bradley. I skimmed this book with my last pregnancy, and focused on Ina May’s stuff and documentaries. The book is actually really good and covers a lot of topics, not just labor. There is a chapter for the Dad’s about what each trimester will bring. The third trimester talks about my energy level and it is spot on. Resting for ten out of 60 minutes is a good idea, not staying in the same position (sitting or standing) for long stretches (or leaning over planks in my case) is also a good idea. With that information, I shook hands with reality and left the planks half done. It is totally bugging me, but since I could barely walk Monday from the bending and leaning I did all weekend, it will have to wait. Today is Wednesday and I’m feeling much better, so hopefully I’ll finish them this weekend.
Not only are my physical limitations spurning me on to get things done, but so are my values. That first year with the baby is for the baby (IMHO). They are a needy lot and I’ve learned that trying to balance their needs with my wants just doesn’t work for me and I’m okay with that. That’s why I know that these projects need to be done now otherwise they won’t get done for a while (like a year or two). I’m looking forward to that time, though, remembering fondly that first year with Lorelei. Only 10 more weeks to go!