One of my biggest pet peeves is how the kids treat one another. Noah has an overly critical and controlling personality. It’s difficult to get him to understand that in this family we are polite to each other, we help each other, we do not call each other “idiot” even if we are acting that way.
I believe that our family is their first relationships and where they will learn to navigate their future friendships and relationships. I want my children to have each other’s backs as they get older. I also want the energy in the house to be peaceful and if they are being mean to each other, it’s not peaceful.
In my previous marriage we didn’t treat each other very well. We “picked” on each other, we weren’t respectful and it was volatile. My husband Jason is kind and generous. I’ve seen how being helpful and polite can make all the difference in a relationship.
My mom has difficult relationships with her siblings and I believe it’s because my grandmother was negligent in that area. She nurtured competition and favoritism and her children did not benefit at all from that atmosphere.
It’s one of those things that I guess we’ll never know if it was beneficial until the kids are grown. I can only strive to show them the way, they must walk it out.
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