Taken at the grandparent’s house
How I love this boy! It has been three full years since his father and I have separated. He loves his daddy so much and is just like him. I see Patrick in him on a daily basis; in facial expressions, in silliness, and in his temper.
My hope was that once he was given stability and a good stable role model that he would calm down and things would “iron out” so to speak. He is more calm, but I think that has more to do with him getting older. He misses his dad very much. I’ve wondered for some time if we should have him talking to a counselor and recent events have pushed us to do just that.
I called up a place that was recommended to us and we had our first appointment last week. It was just a preliminary meeting where we laid it all out and decided on a plan of action. The lady we talked to was great. She mainly works with children and Noah really liked her…or the cool toys she had in her office..or both. :o) She seemed to know what she was talking about and was very encouraging of us. We will see her on a weekly basis for a while and she will help us to understand Noah better as well as how to parent him better. We all need better skills in this situation, including Noah. She said one thing that I loved (and I am paraphrasing here); thoughts lead to feelings, lead to actions. I can see that Noah is hurting and he won’t talk to me. When Jason or I try to talk to him, it doesn’t penetrate and we just keep going round and round.
I know that when Noah is older he will want to go live with his father and until then I am doing my best to equip him to lead a better life than either of us can imagine. Part of that is learning to give control of his life over to God. This is very difficult! Mother knows best, right? Hmm, maybe not. In my opinion, counseling -even if only for a short period of time- can be so very beneficial. An outside party, unbiased, is able to influence us and teach us to look at things differently in order for us to grow and change for the better. I hope that is true for our family and I hope we see real change in the next few months.