hen life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Have you heard that saying lately? Our generation (I am making a huge generalization at this point) seems to hear, “when life gives you lemons; move to another state, or quit your job or divorce your spouse, or [insert traumatic life change here]”. Rarely do I hear of people who are toughing it out. Meaning, rarely do I hear of or see people of my generation sticking to anything past the point of being uncomfortable. Myself being one of these people.
My husband chooses to tough it out, which does not make him better or right, just an example of making different choices. Life is difficult for us right now and has been for a while. It isn’t what we hoped or planned for and a lot of it was/is out of our control. A couple of years ago, after moving plenty of times and choosing my own traumatic life change I was still for a long time. I learned to love my home state of Florida, even with its horrifically hot summers, zero inches of snowfall, and touristic type atmosphere year round. I enjoy many different pockets of this city and all that it offers and I appreciate even the rednecks and ignorant people who populate the city. I’ve learned the truth of another saying, everywhere you go, there you are. That doesn’t mean that the possibility of blowing this popsicle stand doesn’t appeal to me, it certainly does, but I think that feeling is usually an indication of discontentment in myself or the need to take a quick trip out of state. If it is discontentment, then it is something I need to work on and moving will not quench the yearning, but instead might possibly fan the flames. I know this from experience.
I have watched my husband be dealt a life altering blow this past year and instead of giving up, he dug in his heals and he’s been working at it ever since. The other shoe has fallen a dozen times over and he continues to do what he can to make things right and still put food on the table. Instead of making a quick decision to cut and run, he has maintained what he can taking things slow and enduring this stressful season of life. As a result he has seen change and improvement in his business and himself. That’s not to say he can maintain this level of stress forever, but his innate sense of calm and his calculated decision process is what maintains the stability of our family, something that I feel our generation has lost.
He is not perfect and because I am impulsive and impatient he sometimes drives me crazy with his need to research every possible scenario to make the most informed decision, but I also admire this attribute and think that perhaps I am rubbing off on him (just a little). :oD
We are slowly enduring the decision making process in choosing which direction to take which doesn’t involve moving to another state or making too major of a life change, but the choice will still effect our family. That doesn’t mean that making these big traumatic changes are always bad choices, or always good choices for that matter, but they should not be made on the spur of the moment or with the grass is always greener on the other side mentality, or so my husband has taught me.