With three bedrooms and four kids there is going to be some room sharing happening. A room for each child would be amazing. Even if they were tiny rooms at least they would each have their own space, but that would make our house five bedrooms. Yeah, pretty much impossible at the moment for many reasons. Last year about this time we moved a two year old Lorelei into a room with her 6 year old sister. I thought, “Girls sharing is the coolest!” “Sisters!” “It’s gonna be so sweet!” I was super wrong.
They fight. They fight so hard you’d wanna disown them both. All that room sharing love lessons? Nope. Just fights and not in the working it out/learning to live and love together way. It was a daily battle and I was done forcing it.
Henry is in the bonus room off of our bedroom right now and we’re beginning to think about him sharing with someone. We originally thought Noah, because they are both boys, but Noah has a million legos. He also has Nerf darts that Henry thinks are teethers. The foam feels awesome, I bet. Since the girls pretty much hate sharing a room, I started researching co-ed sharing. Noah and Nora are closer in age (10 and 7) and we aren’t quite to that point of puberty where sharing might be weird. I brought it up with Noah, giving him a choice of Nora or Henry and he quickly chose Nora. Nora adores her brother, so she was all for it.
We switched rooms this past weekend putting Nora and Noah together and giving Lorelei her own room until Henry is sleeping through the night (please be soon).
We finished just before dinner time including getting curtains up and most everything squared away. You know what happened? Noah and Nora closed their bedroom door to Lorelei and a sigh of relief fell over the whole house. We had a discussion at dinner about the rules of the room and they decided on being courteous, giving privacy for changing and no hitting. Noah has the bottom bunk, so it feels like a secret cave, which he loves, while Nora is on the top bunk maintaining a position of power. (Crucial for living with a strong-willed sibling.) It has worked out beautifully. The bigs stay up for a little longer at night reading and when school starts, Lorelei will be able to sleep in while the others get up and get ready.
You might be feeling sorry for Lorelei being in a room all by herself, but I can tell she loves it. She has a hard time going to sleep straight away and she enjoys pestering Nora, so now that she is alone she has no one to pester and can read and sing until she falls asleep, which thankfully is getting earlier.
It’s funny to me how easy it was to switch rooms. Their sheets and decor match well and the girl’s room feels homier with Noah’s stuff displayed. (He’s quite the hoarder.) This situation probably won’t work forever, but for now, it rocks.
We were out at the boat Sunday and I got a video of Lorelei and Henry dancing.