Every year looks different. The kids alternate Christmas day with their dad and I, so some Christmas’ they spend the first week of break with their dad and the second week with us and we do “Christmas” a few days later with them. Last year wasn’t good because their dad bailed and Noah didn’t come home at all, so it was just Lorelei and Nora on Christmas day (I was still preggo with Henry). All this to say, this year we have all four kids on Christmas day and I’m in a bit of a conundrum.
Go big or be practical? The thing is, Noah and Nora get a lot of CRAP from their dad’s house, like a rubbermaid tote full of the entire Dollar Store and toys you buy your kids that have a lot of annoying features and small parts. The result of kids with essentially two Christmas days is ungrateful children and (like I said) a lot of crap. We don’t have a lot of money to spend, but that isn’t the issue, it’s how to spend it. This year, for whatever reason, I am leaning towards a more practical Christmas. e.g. socks, underwear, one or two small toys each, maybe a couple of movies or board games to share.
Part of the problem is that gifts are my love language. I want to buy them lots of cool stuff, because I love them. That’s how I show it. However, I always end up feeling empty on Christmas day because they are ungrateful brats. lol They both just had birthdays and those toys are sitting at the bottom of their toybox. My hubby made a point that if we buy them practical items they will wear them all the time, so I will see that they are getting used. I think we will continue that route. This year we just had family birthday parties (us and grandma) and I think it worked out really well. Noah got a big item from us and he plays it every day. I think I would like to make Christmas a more practical time of year instead of hitting the motherload. Christmas comes every year and I don’t want to set ourselves up to escalate gifts, especially with four kids to buy for annually.
This is our backyard this morning. What does it mean to have the first snow before Thanksgiving?