Facebook. Love/hate, right? Love keeping in touch with friends and family, seeing pictures of them or for comic relief. Hate the political, religious, ignorance that people sometimes put out there or agree with and repost. Some “friends” I only interact with on fb. Carrie, for example. (Hi, Carrie!) She’s really Jason’s friend, but he thought we might get along and we do, so now she’s mine. I met her face to face once in Florida and I do like her and it’s fun to hear about her hobbies and how her life is going. Some friends on fb, I’ve been friends with forever. Nicole, for example (Hi, Nicole). We’ve been friends since middle school. We keep in touch on fb and talk once in a while on the phone. She’s busy with her four kids, I’m busy with mine, but every time I come to Florida she makes the effort to get together. That means a lot to me and I enjoy seeing my friend. My best friend, Misty (Hi, Misty!), moved to Oregon six years ago. We’ve been friends for over 20 years, which kinda blows my mind a bit. We talk once a week, we take turns visiting each other once a year (which is crazy expensive to fly 3000 miles and a major hassle) because we’re friends and we make the effort to remain friends. I would go so far as to say she’s my sister.
Since moving to North Carolina I’ve learned to be more of an introvert. I don’t work and we don’t attend church here, so it’s hard to make friends. Facebook and Instagram are my social interaction. That can’t be all, though. Facebook is superficial. Funny comments, quotes, “hey, I’m at this place” updates and whatnot. Try to make it anything deeper and you might get unfriended. Face to face interaction is needed for that, for a connection with that person, otherwise well-intentioned comments may offend.
I’m thinking of having an analog weekend. Jason and I are on our phones (and him on his tablet) constantly. Looking through the eyes of my children I think they believe our phones are our most treasured possessions. I do enjoy Instagram, fb, reading my blog reader, but perhaps this weekend we’ll take a time out. We have plans to go to Asheville and see my mom and have a date night. I’m always excited to share where we go and what we do, but I think I’ll just enjoy it the old fashioned way; inwardly and with those present. I’m hoping Jason will join me on this venture.
When it comes to friendship, I always hope to enrich those around me. Either by sharing new information, opportunities I’ve learned about or fun to be had. That’s another reason I blog, besides documentation. I’m real with people, never lying or putting on false pretenses. My thoughts and emotions are valid, I’m worth effort and time. I’m smart and creative and willing to be genuinely involved in a friend’s life. I have to remind myself of these things because sometimes people are disingenuous and quick to dismiss or judge. Maybe you need this reminder as well? You are worth time and effort. I’m willing to step away from those who disagree.
See you Monday. :o)